Friend Zone
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And now
I feel kinda funny. Months have passed since I started this blog and I already learned to love the girl I liked as a FRIEND. I’ve talked with her about my crushing time and now I find it KINDA embarrassing… lol. We were mature enough to not let that kind of thing ruin our friendship. THAT’S BECAUSE WE ARE TRUE FRIENDS (AND I’M GLAD). And, at this moment, I can’t believe I had a crush on her at some point in my life. It’s incredible how things and feeling change with time. Somehow, I am glad I told her what I used to feel. I think it actually helped with our friendship because It would be awkward to have secrets with a TRUE FRIEND.
It’s hard to explain the amount satisfaction I feel right now. It’s like being in love with our friendship. Not with her.
I would like to make a special emphasis of something I noticed and that I think to be completely true:
When you start to feel embarrassed about having a crush, you already got over it.
Indeed, friend zone sucked balls. I got depressed so many times. But, guys, let me tell you: Time makes good things happen. :D -
Q: I find it funny how girls complain the friendzone is a joke or people or just whining. Clearly they have not been friendzoned! Well I am a girl in love with my male friend who does not want to be more than friends and so as a girl I can relate. I just have to reverse the genders of all the gifs lol
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there there!
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Q: girls get stuck in the friend zone too :P any thoughts/tips on this from the perspective of a guy?
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I actually think girls have it a bit easier. I don’t really know, I’ve never been a girl to know, lol.
But from what I‘ve observed, I can tell that cheerful girls get lots of guys attention. I know a girl who’s like that and almost EVERYONE I know has had a crush on her. It’s insane. She’s also more lucky with girls than most guys I know and she’s not even gay.
So, if you are cheerful, there’s nothing much to say (not overly cheerful because that just gets annoying). A girls smile is a powerful weapon. But well, you can’t fake cheerfulness if you don’t have it.
Back to the point.
My recommendations…Be just A BIT flirty. Yep, you HAVE TO be flirty BUT not enough to make him feel desired. That will make him want to flirt more.
Meanwhile, you can be apparently flirty with other guys in front of him
Talk with him about your celebrity crush (lie about having one if you don’t). Or you can “admire” someone he feels identified with. But DON’T. I repeat, DON’T show interest when he tries to show the same qualities as your “crush” (Because he will). We really hate that.
If you start to notice he’s becoming a nice guy out of nowhere it’s your win. :3
I estimate that 99% of guys being nice with a girl is because they like her. It may be hard to believe(maybe not) but most of us are not naturally nice with girls. If we treat someone nicely is because we’re interested.
If you notice he’s also nice with other guys, he’s either one of the 1% or gay. His best friends don’t count.
Let me tell you, I’m VERY analytical and I have stopped myself from life to observe this kind of behavior many times. I’ve seen it in my (close and not so close) male friends when they have a crush and from my own experience with girls.
But please keep in mind that this is my OWN experience and things my vary in your case. (I don’t really think I’m wrong, I’m just open to admit any mistakes.) I hope I’ve helped you. (: -
Q: I feel like instead of calling this "fuckyeahfriendzone" it should be called "fucknofriendzone" cause let's face it, no one likes being in the friend zone. :(
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We can think on the name of this blog as sarcasm. But, I named it “fuckyeah” to keep with the “fuckyeah” blogs’ tradition and thus making it easier to find. I don’t think the name is REALLY that relevant anyway. The content of the blog is what’s important to me. I could have also named it “ojdfasojfspk” as well.
The thing is… I just want to listen people who feel “unlistened” and try to give’em the best advices I can. I’ve been in the friend zone a few times in my life so I KNOW how you guys feel. I am offering empathy. At the same time, I try to talk about my own experience giving tips and some thoughts on love related stuff. -
Q: i don't even know if my situation is "friendzone". Chris is my friend Elizabeth's ex, and I know she'll get mad if we start going out. But I've told Chris I have a crush on him, and we say "i love you" and he calls me babe, he said next time we're alone he's going to kiss me, he grabs my ass, and made me promise that he'd be the guy I lost IT to. BUT HE WON'T ASK ME OUT&I DON'T KNOW WHY?!
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I’m almost sure he meant when you are alone BY CHANCE. He obviously likes you but he doesn’t have the guts to ask you out because of Elizabeth. Not friend zone.
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Q: A year in a paragraph: Tell guy I like him after spending everyday together for a couple of months, gets replied with a, "I like you but I need more time." Gives time, never gets aimed first except on birthday. Ask guy to homecoming, get rejected. Decide to give up, guy suddenly gives new hope by expressing his feelings. Tries to get out of friend zone, fails. Gives up totally, realizes the friend zone wasn't worth it.
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Indeed, once in the friend zone… you can make someone date you… but they will never really LIIIIKE you that way. It just doesn’t work. :/ Sucks, huh?
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Yep. This is one of the things I’ve learned through the years. One of the weak points of EVERY GIRL is CONFIDENCE. No exceptions. Girls will ALWAYS admire your confidence. If you qualify into this category of gentlemen (confident ones), you’re one step further.
I know what it is like to make eye contact with the one holding your love interest and feel weak against her almighty beauty… but FUCK THAT, GUYS!
If you are not confident and you want her, don’t complain. WORK ON IT, GODDAMMIT! YOU CAN DO IT! Even bad tries have good results.
Peace!
